Three Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

Technique 1: Don't criticize, condemn or complain 

"If you want to gather honey, don't kick over the beehive." 

Quote: "Don't criticize someone, just because you don't understand it"
-Anonymous

You should not criticize anyone, no matter the circumstance. You should always listen closely, be open-minded, and pay attention to what that person has said or has to say. Don't criticize them for doing something in a way that may seem unusual to you, don't condemn them for having a different opinion that you, and don't complain about them in general. You should always think positive and have a positive mind. In order to have a clean, positive mind, you should not critique, condemn, or complain.

Technique 2: Give Honest and sincere appreciation 

"The big secret in dealing with people."

Quote: "As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is to not utter words, but to live by them."

-John F. Kennedy 

It is important that you give sincere appreciation towards someone or something that they do. This means that you should express your gratitude towards them, but only if you sincerely mean it. You should not lie about your appreciation for someone because that is wrong. You should only say something if you mean it. Lying and faking your appreciation is no good. 

Technique 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want.

"He who cannot do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot, walks a lonely way."

Quote: "If you want to be around people who are positive and enthusiastic, and eager to live life, your attitude has to be the same."

-David Cornell

If you want to maintain a person happy and pleased, you must arouse an eager want in them. That means that you should pay attention to them and show them that at that time, they are your main focus. By doing so, the person will feel pleased and happy that you are such an attentive listener. But in order to do this you must remain cool, calm, and positive. 

 

Final Reflection:

Overall I can put these three fundamentals to great use, for these fundamentals can help me handle people better and become more friendly with them. Which will then lead to me making more friends and acquaintances. In order to follow these rules right, I must not criticize or condemn the person, give my honest opinion on what they are saying, and show my sincere appreciation to what they are saying and express an eager want in wanting to hear more. I will surely follow these rules, because they will lead me to the right way.